over this break i found out a concept ive been currently thinking about was completely universal. this concept is something that applies to anyone and everyone. it is friends. without friends and the ability to form relationships the human race would be cursed. there are many times when something bad happens and we think quite the contrary.
with that, many people come in and out of each one of our lives. whether they are in or out does not have a reflection on how good of a person they are. sometimes people just go down different paths and have different interests and live in different places. a true friend can go in and out of your life. there is no person on the earth that is going to act exactly how you would like them to act. i am not a fond believer that people change. i believe most times situations and circumstances change. for example, someone you were friends with in the past may come back in your life and end up being one of your good friends again. it comes down to when you and that friend have a suitable lifestyle for one another. in my opinion, it is the same way with relationships. at certain points in your life a relationship may not be suitable for your lifestyle even though you may love the person you are with. however, in the future a relationship may be completely suitable if not necessary.
knowing who your true friends are is very important. true friends can be classified as people who will be around in your strongest and weakest moments. they are people that stick around for a long time no matter how crazy you may become (within reason of course). at this point in my life, i am able to recognize which friends will stick around as i get older. as a college student it is important to stick around for your friends and recognize who will stick around for you.
there is a slight catch with this advice. over the break i went over to my best friends house for some family time with her mom, her dad, her and two of her sisters. i love spending time over their house because its like seeing my home reenacted with different people. her mom is very social and outgoing. she loves seeing me when i am home from school.
she said that she wanted to talk to me and my friend/her daughter about something. that something was friendship. my friends mom went on to say that friendship can be very special. she said it is special when you realize the person is a true friend. she gave the story of herself and two of her true friends. she grew up in Granada with them. she went on to exclaim that there were times that she spent mad at them, times she spent without seeing or talking to them and times when they didn't even live in the same country. the point is that no one can see into the future. when she was mad at them she never predicted they would still be friends up until this day. it is interesting and funny the way life works out like this. you never know who you will form good relationships with or not. she said a thing that stayed the same overtime was her friends personality.
in addition, she also explained to us that a lifelong friend may be really different from yourself. this really hit me. both of my best friends from home are not only opposites from one another but vastly different from me as well. without getting into detail about our outer appearances, you would never guess we were friends. my friends mom also stressed how outer appearance does not matter. what matters is what lies on the inside. it sounds cheesy but it is the absolute truth. their interests, their personalities, and similarities count. not outward appearance.
MOST IMPORTANTLY, she also said that after not seeing or chatting with her friends for a prolonged period of time, she was able to pick up with her true friends right where they left off. she said, this is the most important thing about lifelong friends.
i have heard this before from my mother. however, sometimes hearing something from your mother is not enough- as it wasn't for me. having realized that mom was right, i thought how truly important it is not only keeping your friends throughout you life, but keeping your true friends that stick around through the good and the bad.
therefore, you never know who you will meet next and the mark they will leave on your life. one can only hope it will be a personal, positive and a hefty, strong mark. with that, build plenty positive relationships and be careful about letting friends fade out. they could come back even better than they were before. there is nothing greater than the power of friendship. the future is in your hands...
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